Kid Style Morning Rituals for Creating Abundance

Parenting is hectic, and if you’re a mom I will bet your mornings sometimes, or often, go something like this:

  1. Set alarm to wake up before the kids so you can get your meditation, yoga, workout, journaling, shower in. REALITY: hit snooze, because let’s face it you’ve only been asleep for 2 1/2 hours since you were up with the kid’s nightmares, feedings, tummy aches all night. So you wake up when your 3-year-old is yelling from the kitchen “Mommy I’m cooking the eggs”. (Yes this really happened to me, he put them in the microwave shells and everything. Don’t even ask how he got onto the cabinet to get to the microwave.)
  2. Calmly Get your children cleaned up, dressed and to the kitchen for the gourmet breakfast where you will all be sharing as a family. REALITY: Your toddler is screaming and will not brush their hair, your 10-year-old is wearing clothes she decided to cut way too short and is yelling at you to quit being the boss of her clothing choices, you finally manage to get them to the kitchen where you all grab granola bars as you run out the door.
  3. Put the children in the car as you are all singing your favorite family tune. REALITY: Your toddler won’t leave the kitchen and has decided to stage a coo and not go to preschool today, your 10-year-old is in the car, headphones on, honking the horn at you to hurry up. You grab your purse and pry your toddlers vice grip off the kitchen chair and rush to the car, start it and realize you aren’t dressed. You now have to get them out of the car, run to your room, get dressed and then the daunting task of getting them back in the car.
  4. Drop off your beautiful children calmly with kisses and hugs at their schools. REALITY: Your toddler doesn’t want to go in today and is hitting you as you drag him inside, your 10-year-old realizes he left his homework and decides to have a meltdown in the carpool drop off lane, as “Mary from PTA” is yelling at you to drop-off and move-on.
  5. Pull into work, fresh, relaxed and ready for a productive day. REALITY: you sit and cry in your car for 5 minutes before you go in, realizing you haven’t even brushed your hair.

Ok, so the above scenario is a bit extreme, but as mom’s, we’ve all been there. For some reason mornings and children AND parents often have a hard time mixing well together. Adults usually want our calm, me time. Kids usually want all attention on them. There are a few tips and tricks to not only smooth out your morning routine but to add rituals to them that teach kids from babies on up how to open themselves up to manifesting productive, abundant, good days for themselves.

Developing and doing morning rituals with your kiddos can be easy and fun and you can teach them at any age, starting as babies!

The first step is to take a look at your own morning manifesting ritual. Do you have one? If you do you can incorporate a bit of your own into what you do with your kids, if not you can develop one right along with the kids! I’m going to break it down by age and stage, with a bit of an intro to what a morning manifesting ritual is.

What is a Morning Manifesting Ritual?
Simply put it’s a way to start the day that sets you on the right course, with the right “tone” to expect a happy, productive, abundant, peaceful, harmonious day. It’s a way to help tell the universe/God/Your higher power (whatever you call it) that you are grateful and ready for good things to come today, to manifest your soul’s desires.

How to teach Morning Manifesting Rituals to your Children:
From the time my son was born until he was a teenager, and no longer appreciated my chipper morning self, I had a ritual I would do with him. It would start with a wake-up song that is a slightly revised version of the song from Singing In The Rain “Good Morning. (my son has always since the womb been a night owl who does not like to wake up before noon). “Good morning, good morning, how are you today? Good morning, good morning, may everything go your way”. Ahh, the curse of being or having a musical-theatre mom, according to my son now. Although he is a grumpy teenager now, he still gets this song sung to him sometimes. He won’t appreciate it until he’s outgrown the “I’m too cool for this shit” stage, but when he’s out “adulting” on his own and hears me singing in his head, he’ll wake up feeling a little better than if I wasn’t.

My point about the often annoying musical wake-up is I would wake him up with a positive vibration. Even if he woke up grumpy, which was 9 times out of 10 for him, he would arise to singing and positivity in his presence.

The beginning of the day can often start off frantic for moms!

I then would play the “What I Love Game” with him starting when he was a baby on up through his teens.
*Side-note, he doesn’t like doing this with me now as a teenager, however, I make him do Monday’s with Mom after school every Monday where I sneak it in!
When he was a baby I’d say to him “What do you love today? Do you love mommy? Do you love you? Do you love Simba? (he carried that damn stuffed toy everywhere) Do you love bananas?” He would giggle and smile and laugh and shake his head yes, or no. When I hit something he loved, I would repeat it to him with his name starting it around 3 to 5 times “Foster loves Simba!”  Then I would play it with him and turn it on myself “Mommy loves Foster” or “Mommy loves apples” etc.. I would do a couple, however many I felt like. This is a fun way to start breakfast with a baby, they respond to your smile and energy in a delightful way, unless they’re teething and we all know that’s a whole other game!

Then I would play Peek-a-boo with him, which would help him learn how to meditate later on. Baby’s love to mimic and when you inhale deep and slow, then cover your eyes with your hands while you hold your breath and then open your eyes and exhale they see you playing a fun game and will follow what you do. Once you do it a few times, you can tell your baby to do it and help him with it. Make it fun and light and fast!

As he grew I expanded these little rituals I did with him as a baby.
When he was a toddler I would ask him what his “Favorite things this morning were”, then instead of peek-a-boo I turned it into “take a big breath, close your eyes and see how long you can hold it and blow a big bubble to let the air out”, which would always crack him up, especially when I did it with him and make funny faces while inhaling.
When he was in Kindergarten I changed the “what his favorite things” were to “What I’m happy about today”. I always made him do at least 5, but I never stopped him if he wanted to do more. For the breathing, I turned it into the quite game but with breathing. So we would see who could be the quietest while breathing in, holding it for as long as we could and then see who could win the quietest exhale.
When he was in 3rd grade I taught him how to express being thankful, at this age he understood the concept and so we changed his “What I’m happy about today” to “What I’m thankful for”, again I’d make it a game while we were in the kitchen or before he got out of bed (he often lingered in bed if there was no school). Around this time I introduced sitting still and not moving to the breathing game. I have to say honestly this was a tough one for my son. He didn’t love sitting still unless playing video games, but he would have days he would get it and have fun with it. I also would try it with yoga moves, again something my son did not love to do, so I didn’t force him.
When he was in 6th grade I upgraded his morning ritual. At this time, as a preteen, he was beginning his attitude-central stage. Whatever I did, said and told him was wrong, ridiculous and dumb..”No one does this stupid stuff, mom!”.  I taught him what being grateful meant and changed his morning ritual to “what he was grateful for”. I’ll be honest, getting a preteen or teenager to tell you what they’re grateful for is like picking apples in an orange grove. They will resist with futility. I did not give up and kept annoying my son every morning. He would sometimes tell me what he was grateful for, and sometimes not. The point is it was a habit being instilled in him, something he had done since a baby. It was also at this time that I taught him how to ask for guidance by being silent. I told him all that silly breathing game stuff was a way to listen to yourself, the universe, your angels, God about what to do. I taught him how he could breathe in counting to 4, close his eyes and hold his breath for 4 counts and then exhale for 4 counts. Then to ask for guidance for the day, with an issue, with people, homework, problems and how that being still and listening to your soul is the only way to find answers. This has taken some time. He gets it now though.
A few years later, around when he was in 8th grade I introduced him to “sending love, good vibes” to people he has problems or issues with, be it a classmate, friend, teacher, me, his dad, whoever. This is a challenging concept to teach a teenager, but showing by your own example is the best practice.

Playing Peek-A-Boo with your baby can actually help teach them the beginnings of meditation!

Once he got his drivers license everything changed, our entire morning routine of getting up, eating (or not neither one of us are big breakfast people), driving in the car together to school was no more. Does my now, 18-year-old, do any of this morning ritual? I don’t know. He’s now grown up, it’s his decision. Do I feel good about teaching him these things, you bet. He may not know it now, but he has auto-pilot manifesting ready to go.

As for manifesting, my son has always been able to manifest what he has wanted. He would always win huge prizes at Taco-Tuesdays at Dukes! From the time he was 4 he won expensive jewelry, skateboards, surfboards, money, you name it. He manifested mini “careers” as a pro-skateboarder at the age of 4 (he was sponsored by Zoo York but then decided it was too much pressure and announced his retirement to me at the ripe old age of 4! LOL), he was a drummer and got to play at the house of blues, the Roxy and other big venues in Los Angeles at the age of 9 (then retired from that at the age of 10), he was a professional gamer and won some big bucks at the age of 15, and now he has followed his passion and heart and is becoming a professional writer, which he’s going to college for.

The seeds you plant now, no matter how much you can’t see them, are indeed growing! The things you do consistently with your children when they’re young and as they grow are what will stick with them.

Here’s the breakdown of ages and stages for Morning Manifesting Ritual:

At every age and stage, wake them up with a positive vibe! Whether it’s singing a silly song, repeating a positive mantra or fun saying. Even when they don’t want you too, or you don’t feel like it and ESPECIALLY when they’re cranky!

Baby (6month-2years): Play the “what do you love” game, and peek-a-boo (this 5-10 minute routine with your baby will make a world of difference)

Toddler (2years-5years): Play the “what are your favorite things this morning” game and the hold your breathe and make silly faces game.

Early Childhood (5years-8/9 years): Start the “What are you thankful for” morning routine and the “sitting still while breathing” game. This is a good age to introduce yoga, a few poses in the morning if time and if they’re willing.

Later Childhood (8/9years-12/13years): Change being “thankful” to truly explaining and giving them a good understanding of what “being grateful” is, have them express 5 things they’re grateful for out loud every morning. This is also a great age to transform their breathing and sitting still into the 4X4X4 yoga breath and how to ask their higher-self (God/Universe/Angels whatever your family connects to for higher power) for guidance. This will come in handy for the teen anxiety years, issues, school, friends, etc..

Teen Years (13years-16years): Make sure your teen is still doing the Grateful for 5 things every morning and breathing and asking for guidance. Also, introduce how to send love and good thoughts, vibrations, light to those that your teen is having issues with. This technique can come in handy and help your teenager understand that the world does not, in fact, revolve around her/him and help with getting over feelings of “wrongdoing” by teachers, friends, sports teams, etc..

Teaching your child morning manifesting rituals will give him valuable skills he can use to help him manifest the life of his dreams.


This morning ritual will be engrained in your child’s life when you do it consistently. It also will help them understand that they are the creators of their world and day and if they set the intention for a good day they are more likely to have one.

The next blog I’ll be giving 2 free digital download 5-minute mom mediations, for morning and night, because let’s be real, when is the last time you were able to get more than 5 minutes alone?

Until then let me know what your morning ritual is or what you will now be incorporating into your morning ritual!


Staying Positive and Sane While Traveling With Your Kiddos

So the end of the last blog I begin telling you about an experience I had in Mexico, with my son, one of my best friends and her twin boys and the teachable moment for us all. This event really made me realize how important R.A.B.S.A.P is in keeping my fear from projecting onto my child, as well as helping me to stay calm, even in the most extreme situations.

It all started with an amazing vacation my bbf and I decided to take with our boys. We both love the beach, warm weather, and Mexico (which we had both been to many, many times). We found an all-inclusive, safe, kid-friendly resort and we were on our way to 7 days in “mommy” paradise with our 8-year-old boys. What could be lovelier and more appealing to a stressed-out mom than sitting on a beach, sipping margaritas while the kids are in the “Kid Play Care” at the resort, right? It would have been fantastic had our boys actually stayed in the play care. Our boys decided it wasn’t for them, and broke out which in Mexico at this resort wasn’t very hard to do.

As we sat on the beach sipping our margaritas, happy that someone else was watching our boys. Then we noticed two small kids that looked strangely like my son and one of hers running directly toward us. You see her boys are natural platinum blondes and my son at the time had dreadlocks, so they all kind of stood out. Oh, but it couldn’t be our kids, after all, they were safe and sound in the “Kid Play Care”. Then BAM, there they were, yes it was our kids, but one of them was missing, maybe he stayed in the play care.  As the boys tumbled onto to us (very literally), they explained that the other twin had gone off with a man on a donkey and he was promising him new sneakers.

PANIC and FEAR jolted into both of us as we jumped up to figure out where he was and if he was safe. My son immediately picked up on my fear and absorbed it like a dry sponge to water! Up to this point, he was concerned and knew it was wrong, which is why he ran to tell us but was keeping a positive outlook. That is until my fear jumped out of me and leached onto him, and for a very good reason. My thoughts immediately went dark and low-vibration with stories I’d head of children being kidnapped and put on the black market in Mexico. I tried to stay calm to help keep my friend calm but we were both very worried. We quickly jumped up and ran in the general direction of where they said he went, dragging the boys with us of course.

After running in panic mode down the beach we stopped to catch our breath. It was at this time I noticed the sheer terror and fear in my son’s little face that was not there before. I had given him this. I knew I had to stop and try and shift my thoughts.

Now before I continue I want to be clear that I do not in anyway think that freaking out and thinking bad thoughts about your children will make it come true. However, being someone who has studied L.O.A. I do know that thinking these negative thoughts do not help you in your crisis situation. Keeping positive thoughts and staying calm will help you get through it easier. I also want to make it clear that I do not, in anyway think that any parent that has suffered extreme circumstances caused it by their thoughts. No parent deserves to go through having their child hurt or worse.

Back to Mexico…
As we stopped to catch our breath and look around for a young boy on a donkey, I took 4 big breathes and I as I did my son instantly sighed. He seemed to be picking up that I was calming down. My friend, who happens to a holistic Doctor and spiritual practitioner, noticed I was taking some big yoga breaths. We all took a few big breaths, and my son said “Mommy, he’s fine. You know him he always does these things.” this made us all feel better. As we headed down the curved beach all of a sudden there appeared a donkey with what looked like a young boy on it, being pulled by a man. As we ran up, we saw it was indeed my friend’s son and he was fine. The man worked for the resort and was taking people on 20-minute donkey rides down the beach and back. Whew! Now we really needed those margaritas!

Once we had the boys all safely back with us we decided to speak about the event with them. I also had a private conversation with my son using positive parenting and words to help him “flip” the fear of the event so it would stay with him into his future. I taught him that there are inherent dangers in the world and it’s his responsibility to make choices that keep him safe. I also taught him that staying positive, keeping a clear head, taking breaths to help calm you down during a crisis can often help bring about a more positive outcome. I gave him suggestions of better choices of words that I could have used, instead of saying “Oh My God! WTF was he thinking? I hope he doesn’t get lost or hurt!” I could have said “That is not the best choice he made, let’s quickly find him to help keep him safe”. We then “adjusted” the situation, we talked about the scenario and how to turn it into a positive situation from the beginning. From making the choice to not leave the “Kid Play Care” without letting us know, or asking an adult there to find us before leaving. Once, I had said everything I thought he could absorb about flipping and adjusting the situation I let him know we were going to go have some fun. We then met back up with our friends and we all had a fun night with some creative play, incorporating the situation into it.

What could have been an awful outcome, thankfully ended positively and was an amazing teaching experience that we all learned from.

Me and my son, Foster on the Mexico Vacation.

Side note, her son went off again later that week. He went to the front of the line as we were getting off a boat to a remote beach and got in and took a dingy with a family he didn’t know. As we turned around and noticed he was gone, my son said: “look mom there he is in the dingy with those people!” We all stayed calm, yelled at the adventure guide to make sure someone held him for us at the beach. Needless to say, she had a lot more teaching about not going off with strangers left to explain to her son. Oh, and he was fine.

This experience is not uncommon when traveling with children. I hear all the time horror stories about traveling with kids, from the airport to the location and everywhere in-between. In fact, I wrote a book called “Toddler Travels” a while back that I recently took off Amazon so I can make it a Freebie on the Magnificent Mom blog in the next week.

Traveling with kids can cause all sorts of low-vibe, hair-pulling experiences, that always come directly from us. Yes, I know you didn’t want your toddler to throw that temper tantrum but I’m fairly certain your toddler picked up on your stress which caused her to stress herself, and we all know how toddlers deal with stress. They throw tantrums.

There are so many ways to keep your travels calm. The first step is to visualize the entire journey going smoothly and calmly before it’s even close to time to go. Along with visualizing use positive words in the past tense about how the travel part is going to go such as “I’m thrilled that maneuvering through the airport was so easy and enjoyable and I’m so happy that my child was so calm and happy with the entire experience”. You’d be surprised how well this can help put your mindset into a positive frame which makes all your energy higher that sets the tone for the entire trip.

When my son was very young we were bicoastal and we traveled a lot. This put us in the airports right after 9/11 traveling with a baby-toddler. One time when he was almost 2-years-old we got pulled out of the line to get on the plane to be “double checked” by TSA. When we stepped aside to be wanded, the TSA agent told me to put my son on the rubber pad and to remove his shoes and then instructed me to “step aside”. They whisked my son away from me, a good 8 feet or more, and left me standing there holding his little shoes. Again, he was just shy of his 2nd birthday. They made him stand on the rubber mat with his feet apart and his arms out to his sides as they proceeded to wand him. I remember his little face looking at me confused and about to cry. I looked at him and smiled and told him it was ok, it was like the “lava” game. I took this moment and made it a game, even with a baby-toddler.

This experience could have made the flight an awful one had I complained, let the negative thoughts that entered my head stay and if I had projected it onto my tiny boy. Yes, I had many, many negative thoughts about this experience and it took everything in my power to flip them. What in the h*ll were they doing singling out my baby? I instead flipped it and thought “I’m so glad they are taking extra security precautions to keep us safe”. This made the rest of the trip way more enjoyable and I used it as a teachable moment with positive-parenting and positive words.

Sometimes positive words are F’n hard to find when you feel like you’re a frazzled hot mess running to catch a flight you’re late for, toddler in tow. Sign-up for the blog to hear positive-parenting and positive-words tips and tricks for all your travels, in the car, on the bus, the plane and more, including the free digital download book of “Toddler Travels”!

Until next time!

Shannon Sukovaty
Artistic Director & Imagination Wrangler
Creating Arts Company/CAC Studios

Parenting and Fear

With all the current news and coming out of a horrific school shooting this past week, it’s hard as a parent to not fear for our children. Every day there is something new to worry about with our kids, no matter what age or stage they are in.

When they are babies we worry and fear S.I.D.S., as well as other infant issues. When they are toddlers, well let’s be real it’s pretty much a daily, hourly, and minute-by-minute fearing for their lives. Whether they’re taking a tumble down the stairs, getting into the kitchen knives or running away from you at the store. Each and every age and stage has its own parental worry and fear attached to it and as a mom of an almost 18-year-old I can tell you from experience it only intensifies and increases as they get older. (and NO you do NOT get more sleep, in fact, I can honestly say I probably get less sleep with an 18-year-old as I did when he was a baby.)

Why am I talking about all of this? Because our “fear” that we experience is natural, it’s the “Mamma Bear” effect, the “we will lay down our lives to protect our children at all cost” mentality that all moms have. This feeling is what can literally turn us into SuperSHEroes to save our children, we’ve all heard about the mom saving her child by lifting an entire car, finding superhuman strength.


However, this fear can unconsciously be pushed onto our naturally happy, L.O.A. (Law of Attraction) manifesting children, without us even realizing it. When it comes to how we protect our children, how we guide them away from danger, it is important to realize that more than ANYTHING our WORDS MATTER! If we allow our children to hear our fear, they naturally absorb it, this can become a block for them to manifesting the lives of their dreams later in life, it can settle in their subconscious waiting to stop them from taking that risk that could be the best thing they ever did.

So how do we protect our children, deal with our own fears and anxieties while not projecting it onto them? BREATHE, WORDS and CREATIVE PLAY! Utilizing breathing techniques along with empowering words and creative play can help us get our point across about a particular threat or danger without instilling fear into our children.


Let’s take the basic scenario of the child about to touch a hot stove. Obviously, the knee-jerk reaction is to slap the child’s hand away from the fire or hot burner, but how we deal with what is said and how the tone is after is what will shape your child’s view of the incident. This, in turn, creates how they feel and form subconscious thoughts about heat, stoves, and fire and even exploring, taking risks and assessing new situations. Slapping your child’s hand away from fire and heat is clearly what is going to keep them safe at the moment, however losing your cool, yelling or scolding them saying that it’s bad, dangerous and to never-ever touch it, forms negative reactions in your child’s mind. Yes, this can save them from being burnt by instilling fear in them about the burner or fire, however, it can also instill in them a general negative or fear that they pick up from you about how to deal with stressful or dangerous situations.

If you have ever heard of or studied the Law of Attraction then you know that like attracts like. Your fear can create and attract more fearful situations. Your fear can be passed onto your child, leaving them with negative-fearful emotions that subconsciously attract more of those same negative emotions by way of negative situations.

This is when I suggest using the R.A.B.S.A.P. technique. This is a fun technique that I developed even before I was a mom myself. Teaching drama and dance for over 25 years, I began figuring out this technique when I would deal with unruly kids in my classes. Often these children had issues in their home life that would create problems for them in class. When I had my own child I decided to use this technique in my own parenting, and it worked. I have to confess though, as a new mom, it was very hard to always do it and there were many times I found myself in full-blown “freak-out and yell” mode. I’m not perfect, and no one is a perfect mom. However, the more I worked on it, the easier it became to not project my fear onto my son. I can honestly say he is now almost 18, a young adult that I am so very proud of and who is manifesting so much in his life!

So what is the R.A.B.S.A.P. method? It’s an acronym for:
Respond (Quickly fix any immediate danger)
Assess (when your child is safe, step back and assess the situation before speaking)
Breath (take 4 big giant breaths in, hold for 4 counts, exhale for 4 counts. Do this 4 times)
Speak (figure out how to explain the situation without fearful or negative words)
Adjust (take yourself and child away from the situation to a place you can begin to teach)
Play (use creative play to teach about the incident in a way that uses positive words yet teaches about any danger to self or others)

This technique is so important for keeping your child in a positive vibration but still teach about the danger of the situation.

I have plenty of stories of me using this and it works, as well as other moms I’ve taught it too, but one of the best stories is of me, my son, one of my best friends and her twins when the boys were all 8 years old. We were in Mexico, Puerto Vallarta, having a wonderful time when one of her boys decided to go off with a stranger on a donkey ride down the beach!…..

I’ll tell you this story and how using the RABSAP technique helped me and my son stay in a high vibration after he was safely back with us and not let it ruin our trip. I will also be doing a FB in the group on this technique and how to use the creative play aspect to teach LOA.

Until next week,

~Shannon Sukovaty
Artistic Director & Imagination Wrangler
Creating Arts Company/CAC Studios